Sometimes what feels like a step backward is actually the way forward

There are times in life when you WISH the phrase "one step back two steps forward" was true. 

Often it's more like one step forward, 436 steps backward.

Our lives are full of examples of things not going smoothly.  When "life" itself is messy and difficult without explanation.

Right perspective is impossible in the moment. It's just not feasible to see everything for what it is while it's happening. 

Experience and wisdom come later; they bring perspective. Time passing teaches us so much about the journey of life. It teaches us that often what feels like the lack of progress or even the reversal of progress is exactly the right and best path to move forward. 

We get so far ahead of ourselves. 

We get moving down the path we think makes sense, with our nice little blinders and a total lack of the perspective and wisdom that would tell us we are headed in the wrong direction.

Sometimes, in fact, often, a step backward is actually ten steps forward. The setbacks may be what you needed to learn, see, experience, or endure to truly make the progress needed. 

The switchbacks on the trail of life are necessary to make it up the steep rocky hills, they seem so frustrating and unnecessary in the moment, but time, wisdom and experience will show you just how valuable they are. 

Don't be discouraged if you're taking a few steps back every now and then, it's likely the quickest way forward. 

Onward, 

Chris Behnke

Inspiration from the Instagram Post: https://www.instagram.com/p/BIHNMqBgxcY/

Sometimes what feels like a step backward is actually the way forward

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Answers to tough questions are often found while pondering majesty

Do you take the time to stare off into the distance and wonder? Do you ever just sit, think, ponder, and breathe?

Over the last few years, I have realized a pretty significant lack of my personal ability to sit and do nothing. It's not in my nature; I don't work that way, and not only do I not work that way, but I feel a tremendous sense of guilt when I'm not doing something.

In many ways, this trait has benefited me; I get a lot accomplished in a short amount of time. The drive over the years has caused me to read dozens of books on productivity, time management, efficiency, cognitive learning techniques, you name it, all of which I have benefited from.

It's also hurt me.

Not taking the time to think, the time to just sit and exist has hurt me. From just a pure efficiency standpoint scientists know that the brain often solves the most difficult problems subconsciously, that "solving" process benefits greatly from relaxed time to think without the stimulation of computers, the internet, music, or even people.

It's hard, super hard, and getting even more difficult every day. We now live in what I call a "HYPER-CONNECTED" culture. We spend around 9 hours a day engaged with social media online (at least teens do, https://www.commonsensemedia.org/research/the-common-sense-census-media-use-by-tweens-and-teens ) 

Nine freaking hours a day, are you kidding me, that's about 130 DAYS of the year, we are engaged with social media.

That is one HECK of a lot of tweets, posts, pics to consume and contribute.

Where is the time to actually "think"? Where is the time to let your brain do the hard work of solving the problems that need to be solved?

It doesn't exist. Not only that, but this hyper-connectivity has also programmed our minds to hate "not being" connected, to hate the very thing we need to do more of.

I spend a lot of my time trying to get more done with the time I have. I'm learning that I need to start spending some time trying how to get less done. How to stop and think more. How to slow down and enjoy my wife more, my children more, my friends more.

I'm learning, it's hard, but I AM learning.

Do you need to slow down? When was the last time you sat, even for 15 min with NO device, NO music, NO internet, NO book? Just sat, and thought?

Maybe you're due; I know I am.

Have you ever watched kids on a merry-go-round,
or listened to rain slapping the ground?

Ever followed a butterfly’s erratic flight,
or gazed at the sun fading into the night?

You better slow down, don’t dance so fast,
time is short, the music won’t last.

Do you run through each day on the fly,
when you ask “How are you?”, do you hear the reply?

When the day is done, do you lie in your bed,
with the next hundred chores running through your head?

You better slow down, don’t dance so fast,
time is short, the music won’t last.

Ever told your child, we’ll do it tomorrow,
and in your haste, not see his sorrow?

Ever lost touch, let a friendship die,
’cause you never had time to call and say hi?

You better slow down, don’t dance so fast,
time is short, the music won’t last.

When you run so fast to get somewhere,
you miss half the fun of getting there.

When you worry and hurry through your day,
it’s like an unopened gift thrown away.

Life isn’t a race, so take it slower,
hear the music before your song is over.
— David L. Weatherford

Onward, 

Chris Behnke

Inspiration from the Instagram post: https://www.instagram.com/p/BIIBtzXgy4L/

Answers to tough questions are often found while pondering majesty

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Truth, it's a patient beast, one with such strength and persistence it always arrives victorious

There are very few things that last forever, very few.

Truth lasts forever.

Once truth exists, it always exists, it never becomes untrue. 

(yes yes, I sometimes know context or situations change i.e. it's true your not low on gas in the car today, but after a week of driving that is no longer true). 

The truth is true and always remains that way, regardless of anyone's desire for it not to be true. "Yea Chris," you're thinking, "of course, if something is true it's true."

Trouble is in today's society we are rapidly losing site of this. All too often people are quick to say "what's true for you is true for you, and what's true for me, is what's true for me." 

This straight up foolishness.

Popular culture dictates that when dealing with someone's feelings, emotions, personal beliefs, or desires; rather than confront with truth, we bend and comply with their beliefs, but since they are often in opposition to our own, we treat them as preferences or opinions rather than actual truth or false.

Why do we do this? 

Quite frankly it's because we've become weak. As individuals, we've become weak, as a society we've become weak, as friends, spouses, and especially parents, we have become weak. 

We are so afraid of offending people we have left truth for falsities, we have marginalized what truly is because we are just too darn weak to stand up for what truth.

Truth is patient through; it waits, never changes, remains true all the while we put on our masks and pretend it isn't so. Eventually, it comes out and reveals itself. It makes take time, a lot of time, it makes take many lifetimes, but truth doesn't care, it will always, eventually, reveal itself.

It's time to start admitting the truth; it's time to start challenging the status quo, it's time to start to holding each other accountable, it's time to start holding yourself accountable. 

Onward, 

Chris Behnke

Inspiration from the Instagram post: https://www.instagram.com/p/BIJtiHSAq9w/

Truth, it's a patient beast, one with such strength and persistence it always arrives victorious

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Going through darkness allows us to see how bright the light actually is

Everyone must go through the struggle at some point. Regardless of privilege, wealth, gender, race, or age. Everyone goes through dark times in their life. 

It's part of the human condition. It's part of what brings us together. 

The dark times.

We learn a lot, grow a lot, our wisdom matures and develops. Dark hard times freaking suck, don't get me wrong, at the same time there is a lot of good that comes from all that difficult crappy stuff. 

Gratitude, perspective, wisdom, all increased through the experience of difficult times. 

Without the struggle, you would have no context of life without the struggle. The stuggle itself is what makes the good times good. It's what teaches you to embrace the good in people, in the world around you, in your community. It's what causes you to realize the great need to fight for what's right, to challenge yourself and others to make a difference. 

Without the struggle, the work is meaningless.

Embrace the trials, consider them for the powerful context building life seasons they are. It's going to be hard of course, but most good things, the things that are worth something, in the end, are actually pretty stinking hard. 

It's not going to be easy, suck it up anyway, you'll be better for it in the end, and the good times will be that much sweeter. 

Onward, 

Chris Behnke

Inspiration from the Instagram post: https://www.instagram.com/p/BIYX9s8AzuG/

Going through darkness allows us to see how bright the light actually is

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